Discovering your “why” is so important because it’s an incredibly powerful tool that you’re going to use to push through tough times.
When business isn’t going exactly the way you want, when you’re crying in the bedroom because you’re just having a tough time accomplishing goals, when you’re working your butt off because you have big dreams for your family, your “why” is what’s going to make you get up, dust off and keep fighting.
Once you’ve discovered the why it’s important to write it down so you can see it.
Consider creating a vision board with images of what you’re fighting for. That is really powerful to look at. The vision board isn’t just about the future and what you want, but can also inspire you to keep going.
My why was to come off medication so I wasn’t missing out on my son. So I had Post-it notes all over my house encouraging me and motivating me to keep pressing forward. My Post-it notes would say “I am free from pain.” “I am free from anxiety”. “I am free from depression.” It kept me in that mindset that I was pushing, pushing, pushing toward something better.
Another great step to stay on track is to surround oneself with like-minded people.
People that are going to help you stay focused and push toward your goals. Make a choice to separate yourself from negative people. I left a lot of the endometriosis community support groups because the focus wasn’t on getting better. It was focused on constantly being in pain and how much pain they were in, and which surgeons were horrible, and how the family was horrible and not supportive. There wasn’t a lot of positivity, if any.
I walked away from that and surrounded myself with people that were in the natural health space, motivational speakers, and people that were always stretching themselves to become more. I spent a lot of time reading the Bible. As things slowly came to fruition, my post it’s changed to “I am thankful that I am now free from pain, anxiety, depression.”
That’s the best, and most important, step at the end: be incredibly grateful that you’ve accomplished your goal. You can then set new goals! It is refreshing to constantly stretch yourself.
Are you struggling to find your why?
It’s going to be OK! You don’t have to have it all figured out right now, in this very moment. Take a deep breath and just let it go for a minute. I know that sounds easier said than done but when we are incredibly stressed out, and our brain is just overwhelmed with a to-do list or the kids need this and dinner isn’t done- it’s just so hard to focus on ourselves.
Seek a quiet space, and I know that can be tricky. But make one, and sit down with pen to paper. Journal it out: write out the to-do list and get things off your mind, not necessarily to check off. Just get everything you are experiencing in this quiet moment- put it down on paper. Experience the thoughts as they come.
Next, put your hands over your heart, and ask yourself “what is it that I really want?”
You’d be surprised that your heart will tell you. When you’re quiet and you give yourself a minute to think you’d be surprised what your heart will say. You will find your why.
Michelle Matthiae is a wife and mother on a mission to Educate, Equip, and Empower women.
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