Why Delaying a Honeymoon can be the Best Idea for a Military Couple
When I met and married my husband Chris, I knew our lives would be anything but normal. Before we were even married we had already dealt with deployments, time in the field, long work hours, PCS’s and even living wills. What normal couple does that? And when we got engaged we played the “when can we actually set a date for a wedding?” game. He was going to Europe until April and PCSing in June, so that left May! We scheduled a wedding in Savannah, Georgia in 2015 and it all went off without a hitch.
But there was one thing missing. We didn’t plan a honeymoon. Honestly, we didn’t even think about it. Our wedding was on May 24 and on May 27 we had to start driving from Georgia to Arizona for a PCS. There was no time for a honeymoon! Literally! Right after our wedding, we packed up the cars and drove to Arizona which I called a “road trip honeymoon.” But the stress of moving and getting to a new post didn’t really make it seem like the honeymoon I’d always dreamt of. But I knew we would plan a honeymoon eventually.
It would be almost three years later until we were able to plan real honeymoon. Deployments, more PCS’s, and life just got in the way.
But looking back, I’m so glad we had to wait to plan a honeymoon. Because it turned out wayyyy better than I thought. Here’s why:
We saved money:
By waiting a few years we were able to save up more money and splurge a little more. Right after we were married we probably wouldn’t have been able to afford an overwater bungalow in Tahiti, but with a little savings we were able to splurge.
We had more time:
Sometimes honeymoons can be rushed since most people have to get back to work or only have a limited amount of days off. We were able to save leave days and time off for three years in order to take a three-week honeymoon. It was soooo worth it.
We were well-rested and stress-free:
Leaving right after you say “I Do” can be quite stressful. You are planning a wedding AND a honeymoon at the same time. You have to pack and make travel arrangements at the same time you are ordering a cake and flowers. When we planned our honeymoon we were already married so all we had to do was plan the trip! And we weren’t leaving the Sunday after our wedding, when we were exhausted.
We were able to spend time with family after the wedding:
Since we had a destination wedding, all of our family had traveled to attend our wedding. On the day after our wedding we were able to spend time with our family and reflect on the wedding instead of jet-setting off on the honeymoon. This time with family was really special.
No packing luggage or flying:
Again, we didn’t have to worry about packing for a honeymoon or jumping on a plane. We literally went home the day after our wedding, ordered pizza, opened a few gifts and enjoyed spending some time alone, just the two of us. This was some of the most peaceful, special time we had together.
Reflect on marriage and remember the day:
We definitely reflected on the wedding the day after we said our vows, but then we spent three years reflecting on our wedding day and our marriage when we finally we able to take a honeymoon. It was fun to recall our wedding while lounging on the beach and think about the good times we had shared.
Three years later after our wedding day, we took our dream honeymoon to Tahiti and New Zealand. And you know what? We still felt like newlyweds. If you have to delay your honeymoon due to the military don’t worry, plan one for later on. It will be worth the wait!
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